Why Personality Matters
Planning a wedding is kind of like assembling your dream team. You’re not just hiring talent, you’re curating a vibe. And while it might be tempting to book a vendor based solely on their stunning Instagram feed or glowing reviews, there’s something even more important that couples often overlook: personality fit.
Yes, your florist may create jaw-dropping arrangements, but if their energy stresses you out every time you talk, that’s a red flag. Your photographer might have award-winning shots, but if they talk over you or your fiancé during meetings, do you really want them with you all day on one of the most emotional and memorable days of your life?
It turns out, personality compatibility isn't just a nice bonus. It’s essential.
A Wedding Day Isn’t Just About the Details
Think about it. You’ll be spending hours, if not the entire day, with some of your vendors, especially photographers, coordinators, and makeup artists. That’s a long time to be around someone whose energy doesn’t mesh with yours.
In fact, a study by WeddingWire found that nearly 70% of couples say that finding vendors they feel personally connected with was just as important as budget or style. Because it’s not just about how the cake tastes. It’s about how the baker responds when you want something changed. Not just about the music the DJ plays, but how they read the room and interact with your guests.
How to Spot a Good Personality Match
So how do you make sure a vendor is more than just a pretty portfolio?
1. Meet in Person or Over Video
Zoom fatigue is real, but hopping on a quick call or grabbing coffee helps you get a vibe check. Do they talk more than they listen? Do they ask about what you want, or only talk about what they do? Are they professional but relaxed? These are all good signs to watch.
2. Notice the Energy
Do you feel more relaxed after chatting with them? Excited? Heard? Or do you leave the conversation feeling drained or confused? Trust that gut reaction. A great vendor should leave you feeling seen.
3. Check Communication Style
Is their email tone friendly and clear? Do they reply promptly? Your vendor's communication style should match your expectations. After all, 40% of couples cite communication issues as one of the biggest wedding stressors. No thank you!
4. Read Between the Lines on Reviews
Yes, look at the stars, but dig deeper into the written reviews. Are people raving about how the photographer made them feel comfortable? How the DJ kept things calm even when the timeline changed? These are the real clues.
5. Ask About “Worst-Case” Scenarios
You want to know how they handle hiccups. A good vendor should have a calm and confident answer for handling delays, weather issues, or last-minute requests. Their personality shows in how they handle pressure.
The Ripple Effect of a Bad Fit
We’ve seen it firsthand. A couple hires a high-end vendor who looks amazing on paper but constantly dismisses the bride’s input or bickers with other vendors on the day-of. The tension is palpable. And trust us, when the energy is off, the whole day feels it. According to The Knot’s Real Weddings Study, couples hire an average of 14 vendors for their wedding, which means you’ve got a lot of relationships to manage. Each one should contribute to the joy, and not the drama.
Your Wedding, Your Energy
This is your love story. Every vendor should feel like someone you’d be happy to see on your big day, not someone you dread having in your bridal suite or behind the mic at your reception. So don’t be afraid to pass on someone whose style you love but whose energy throws you off. The right person will have both.
Finding a vendor with the right style and the right personality is the secret sauce to a wedding that’s not just beautiful, but peaceful, fun, and unforgettable. Trust your gut, ask questions, and prioritize the people behind the services.
Because when the personalities align, the magic happens.
Warmly,
The Wedding Whisperer
